Hi Brian here, it has been a while since our last chat. I just can’t believe we are halfway through the year already, where did all the time go to? I hope that you have been able to overcome your difficulties and make progress, despite the obstacles. OR are you your own worst enemy? Read on to find 4 signs.
What’s been happening?
You remember the last blog post, talking about the apparent demise of reatil in the UK, and around the world because of COVID? Have you taken steps to get your business established?
I have had some set backs as well over the last few months.
- Reduced income on furlough
- Loss of income
- Wife with long term injury
- Distraction
- Self-belief
But we have to pull our selves out it. Buckle up and get back into that business.
On the bright sidewent for a walk recently and came across a mother swan leading her sygnets from the lake across a path. Not at all worried about the humans using the path.
Such a pleasant sight.
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Your Own Worst Enemy, 4 Signs
Why is it you’re not getting ahead? Are you having difficulty in getting started, or could it be you’re not taking the opportunity when you have the time?
It sounds completely crazy, the most common reason people don’t succeed is that they’re engaging in self-defeating behaviors. If you’re not performing at the level you should be; you might want to consider if you’ve become your own worst enemy.
How to tell? Look out for these four signs:
You Use the Emergency Exit
And do you tend to come close to completion of a project only to back out at the last minute? When you feel the need to bail, it’s typically because you’re afraid to take the last step.
Sometimes this can even happen at the start of your business
Either you’re too worried that it won’t work out, or worse, you’re worried that it will. AND then what will I do? It’s not uncommon to back away from things that frighten us. This is why we tank a relationship the moment we start to feel close to the other person. It’s also why we sabotage ourselves at work when we hear we’re being considered for promotion.
You’re Procrastinating
Putting things off, it typically means you are feeling unsure about what you’re doing. If you feel like your skills are not up to the task, or you’re not confident regarding the next step, it’s natural to put things off, hoping that they’ll seem more apparent later.
The problem is this clarity rarely comes from ourselves. In truth, we only wind up sinking ourselves when we should have been asking for help. A mentor or business buddy can be invaluable here.
You’re Burying Yourself in Something Else Entirely
Are you easily distracted? If you’re worried about the outcome of one project, it’s not uncommon to throw yourself into another. This helps you keep your mind off of what worries you. It also keeps you from getting done what you need to.
You’re Giving Yourself the Wrong Pep Talk
Instead of using positive self-talk to get things accomplished, are you by any chance using negative self-talk to keep you from even starting?
After all, it’s very easy to convince ourselves that we’re failures. Why do we do it? Because if we know, it’s not going to work out, we never have to try in the first place.
In Conclusion
All of these behaviors can have a seriously detrimental effect on what we’re doing. Indeed we are experts at being our own worst enemies, especially when we were trying to accomplish something which involves any manner of risk, or the task is personally important to us.
Hope this helps…
Brian
Your comments and questions are always appreciated….
Until next time
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